Do you know what I think should be taught in schools? How to be dumped.

Not only that but also how to end it with someone else, because both are important life lessons and if they aren’t done right, they have a lasting and possibly damaging effect.

I mentioned a couple of weeks ago about the rise in boys growing up resenting, detesting women.

We now have a sub-culture of ‘incels’, men who are ‘involuntary celibate’ – they can’t get laid and they blame women for not wanting them.

Hence why the TV drama ‘Adolescence’ hit a nerve. In our day we would just call that ‘life’ because some people just get all the luck. But in today’s society, labels are god.

It’s a hard thing to say to someone ‘I don’t want you anymore’ and it’s a very hard thing not to be the one in control and have someone level those words at you.

I think it would only be beneficial to learn – early on – how to cope if a relationship ends because the gentler that ending is the less hurt and aggro there will be for everyone.

I have written an article for a national, but I’d like to share the bare bones of it with you, if I may.

It’s not easy at any age but when you’re young, without any experience of the ‘ending game’, it can be so hard to visualise that one day you will struggle to remember the name of the person who presently is your obsession.

So, in a nutshell: if you have been told ‘it’s over’… it is going to hurt, there’s no getting away from it. BUT it will get better.

Time will help you cope, but it can be pigging slow. Take it in bite-sized pieces and think at the end of every day that you are one day closer to being mended.

Fight the urge to check up on them on social media because you’ll just keep opening a wound that is trying to heal.

Blocking them is best; remove the temptation. Bobbing into their life to remind them of your presence is not going to make them suddenly decide they want you back, it’s likely to do the opposite.

We can’t pick who to love, it’s just how life is, so keep the hate out of it because it will erode you, too. They aren’t evil, you aren’t a victim. Writing down your feelings to them in a letter helps, but don’t send it, burn it.

Do something that stops you thinking about them.

Talk to your mum, your friends – let them support you. Treat it like the injury (to your mental health) it is so get rest, eat good food, take some exercise.

This will all make you stronger – eventually. Don’t be tempted to ‘stay friends’ as it won’t work, at least not in the early days.

Keeping your dignity will make you feel better in the long run. Trying to drown your feelings with any form of substance abuse won’t work and just make you feel crap.

And if you are the one ending it, be firm, keep your barriers up, but you can be compassionate and respectful too.

You don’t need to trash and hurt that person you once liked enough to couple up with, you don’t want to be known as that rat.

Don’t be tempted to check up on them, you’ll give them false hope. Distance is better, though it might not feel like it. It’s a hard thing to have to face, but it can be less hard if done kindly.

Hope it helps.